Josh's Pink Library

My list of things I pondered this weekend.


1.) After watching the perfectly dreadful movie He's just not that into you, I got to a'thinkin. If you haven't seen it, quick run down, its about dating somebody and realizing when they are not as "in to you as you are to them". Now, while I am now where near the dating scene I got to wonderin' is it possible for my friends, or those that I call my friends, to be just "not that in to me." Are friends held to a different standard? Can I (or anyone, for that matter) be "more in to" a friend then the other person is? How does one know if your friends just aren't that into you? In the movie there were signs that the object of affections wasn't in to you... are there signs that your friends aren't that in to you? If so, how do you recognize these signs? Are the signs the same?

2.) Is it acceptable to have the dreaded mormon "define the relationship" talk with a friend? Along the same vein as item #1, is it acceptable to talk with your friends and decide where you are in the friendship. Is it reasonable to want to establish where you both are in the friendship. Is it reasonable to have expectations for what you want out of the friendship? Should you make these expectations clear?

3.) Can one "break-up" with a friend? Should you decide that the friendship is no longer working for you, should you tell the other person "I am no longer receiving anything from this relationship and I have no interest in continuing it?" We would do this with a love interest, why not with a friend. I wouldn't tolerate abuse from a love interest, why do I from my friends? Do I tell the other person that I am finished with the relationship... or do I just let it die?

4.) Do people mistreat or abuse their friendships, because they are friends and "they will understand?" Do I mistreat people because they are "my friend"? Why has it become "Ok" to treat people whom we call friends "this way". Or, should people who treat others poorly still be a friend?

5.) Have I received all I can from Steven the trainer? Is it time to fine a new trainer? Getting in a fight with Steven the trainer this morning didn't help with this.